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Working Out Problems

Fourth graders build relationship skills by learning a step-by-step way to work out problems with others — calming down, naming the problem, thinking of solutions, choosing a fair one together, and checking if it worked.

Grade 4CASEL: Relationship Skills35 minutes1 class periodCASEL SELExplicit teaching4 StandardsCASEL
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Lesson at a Glance

Everything you need before the bell rings

Learning Objectives

Students will be able to…

  • ✓Explain problem-solving.
  • ✓Order the steps.
  • ✓Find a fair solution.
  • ✓Solve a problem together.
Essential Question

Disagreements happen with friends and classmates — the question is how you work them out. Is there a fair way to solve a problem together?

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Interactive Task
Put in Order · Interactive

Order the Problem-Solving Steps

Project this and have students put the steps for working out a problem in order — from calming down to checking the solution.

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The Lesson · SEL Flow (Check-In · Learn · Practice · Apply · Reflect)

35 minutes, five moves

Tap any phase to open the teacher moves and student actions.

1

Check-In — Disagreements Happen

5 min

Disagreements happen — how do you work them out fairly?

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Do a check-in.
  • Ask how problems feel.
  • Be caring.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Check in.
  • Reflect.
  • Get ready.
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Learn — Problem-Solving Steps

9 min

Students learn.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Explain calming down first.
  • Explain naming the problem.
  • Explain finding solutions.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Learn calming.
  • Learn naming.
  • Learn solving.
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Practice — Order the Steps

10 min

Students practice.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Send students to Order the Problem-Solving Steps.
  • Order them.
  • Practice a scenario.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Order them.
  • Practice.
  • Explain.
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Apply — Apply

6 min

Students apply.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Role-play solving a problem.
  • Use the steps.
  • Find a fair solution.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Role-play.
  • Use steps.
  • Solve it.
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Reflect — Reflect

5 min

Students close.

👩‍🏫 Teacher Moves

  • Name the first step.
  • Explain a fair solution.
  • Complete the exit ticket.

🎒 Student Actions

  • Name it.
  • Explain it.
  • Complete the exit ticket.
Standards Alignment

Built to the standards you report on

Aligned to the CASEL 5 Social & Emotional Learning Competencies.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Solve problems and resolve conflicts.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Communicate and listen to reach a solution.

CASEL
Relationship Skills

Negotiate fairly.

CASEL
Responsible Decision-Making

Evaluate a solution.

Differentiation

One lesson, every learner

Multilingual Learners

ELL / EMERGING READERS
  • Step cards.
  • Sentence frame: “First ___, then ___.”
  • Role-play the steps.

Support & Access

IEP / 504
  • Start with “calm down first.”
  • Order two at a time.
  • Use pictures.

Stretch & Extend

GIFTED / EARLY FINISHERS
  • Mediate a peer problem.
  • Explain compromise.
  • Solve a group problem.
Materials

What to gather

  • 📽️Screen / board
  • 🤝Step cards
  • 💻Order the Problem-Solving Steps
  • 🎭Role-play scenarios
  • ✏️Pencils
  • 🎫Exit-ticket slips
Vocabulary

Key terms — hover for a quick definition

problema disagreement or challengesolutiona way to fix a problemfairthe same for everyonecompromisea solution both acceptcalmsteady and relaxedlistento pay attention to someonecooperateto work togetheragreeto decide together
Evaluate

Exit Ticket

Preview the three formative checks. Tap “Sample answer” to see what mastery looks like — hide them before you print for students.

QUESTION 1
What is a good FIRST step when working out a problem?
Stop and calm down.
QUESTION 2
Why is it good to choose a solution TOGETHER?
So the solution is fair and both people agree to it.
QUESTION 3
What should you do after choosing a solution?
Try it and check if it worked.

Reflect: work it out.

Have students use the problem-solving steps the next time they have a small disagreement, focusing on staying calm and finding a fair solution. A printable problems sheet is in the SEL library.

Study · Flashcards

Study the key terms

Tap a card to flip it, then rate whether you knew it. Built from this lesson’s vocabulary.

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Practice · Quiz

Check your understanding

A quick self-check with instant feedback, drawn from this lesson’s key terms.

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Practice · Worksheet

Printable worksheet

A print-and-go review sheet with a built-in answer key. Tap “Show answer key” to reveal answers, or print the clean version for students.

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Name: ________________________
Date: ____________

Part A · Write the word that matches each meaning

Word bank: agree, calm, compromise, cooperate, fair, listen, problem, solution
  1. steady and relaxed
  2. a solution both accept
  3. the same for everyone
  4. to decide together
  5. a way to fix a problem
  6. a disagreement or challenge
  7. to work together
  8. to pay attention to someone

Part B · Show what you learned

  1. What is a good FIRST step when working out a problem?
  2. Why is it good to choose a solution TOGETHER?
  3. What should you do after choosing a solution?
Answer key — Part A: 1) calm · 2) compromise · 3) fair · 4) agree · 5) solution · 6) problem · 7) cooperate · 8) listen
Part B: 1) Stop and calm down. 2) So the solution is fair and both people agree to it. 3) Try it and check if it worked.